The Art of Letting Go

Whenever I think about the past romantic relationships I existed in, the more I understand the err in our behaviours that self-destructed the unity we signed up for. Mostly my own flaws & I have journeyed into learning why, growing me into a better version of myself. I write & write honestly. I practice cleansing what was unclear, removing what seemed heavier than our love we shared. I can never right the wrongs in totality but through my writing I can address the wrongs.

I’m learning to forgive through pain.

I’m learning to hold my own hand.

I’m learning to let go, because something better is meant for my energy.

Our hands sometimes clench onto things that have died & serve no purpose but immobilisation of the heart – growth in no direction.

How do we decipher what goes & what stays?

1.) you attract the energy you give.

2.) if it leaves, it goes. do not wait for it to return.

3.) what organically returns, if it does at all, has a larger purpose.

You are an entry into YOUR world. When people come into your world, they are visitors & we sometimes have no power of control on how they exit our world. How they leave is a direct reflection on how you told them bye.

Letting go is the only way to drop heaviness of pain. Let go of all that “love gone wrong” with the typical attachment of miscommunication. Start with forgiving yourself, soon after you will understand who else deserves an apology.

Let “it” go, your survival depends on it. Draw from that place of shattered dreams or expectations of someone, turn it into fuel to repair yourself.

Ensure your pain does not go ignored or avoided. Suppressing hurt emotions is self-inflicting the amplification of that pain. Being passive about hurt is not a decision. If there is pain in your mind & heart, you owe yourself relief. Choose not to let your pain live in vain. The heart can break over & over because of unlearned lessons. Your heart will only grow & grow until it has outgrown its former shell, or it will submit to a size that does not expand.

Fate is not an accident. You were meant to feel that pain & it was meant to grow you. There is no such thing as pointless suffering, everything has purpose.

Internally, growth has a lot to do with rewiring and redesigning how you operate emotionally. Sometimes the secret is to accept what was & allow the past to be the past while simultaneously allowing the past to teach you something about the “now”. Acceptance is a form of letting go.

But we are given a gift in the form of mistakes & the aftermath of mistakes is awareness & with awareness we can no longer accept the reality of our former ignorance. We must change, we must grow, we must let go of dead relationships & most importantly we must heal from those spaces. Nothing changes if nothing changes.